Looks like I've finally got it. I got my Blue Belt in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu from my good friend and instructor Javier "Showtime" Vazquez. I started out at Millennia over in Pomona with three great trainers Javier Vazquez, Romie Aram, and John “TheRev” Jensen. I found something I loved, and was hooked on jiu-jitsu. I became close to all three of them, and I am very appreciative to all three of them. John has since moved down to Australia with his family, and I stay in contact with him from time to time. Romie moved Millennia to Rancho Cucamonga, and it has continued to thrive, and make World Champion MMA fighters. Javi started up Showtime BJJ in La Habra, where he took over the Academy from his instructor Rodrigo Medeiros. I would split time at both Millennia and Showtime, but now train mostly with the gi at Showtime.
I'd like to thank everyone that has helped me along the way. Everyone from Showtime and Millennia especially... Javier Vazquez, Romie Aram, John Jensen, Gabe Ruediger, Jason Brudvik, John Alessio, Betiss, Rick, Eric, Casper, Dave, Bebeck, Apple, Tiny, Brunel, Horse, Delgado, Joseph, Axman, Artie, Mike Dawg, Ikea Fight Team, Joe Boxer, Pete, Chad, The Mangler, Dirty Dave, The B.O.B., and Matt.
I know that I forgot a ton of guys, as there have been a lot of guys help me out on my way. I want to thank every one of you from the bottom of my heart. I will never forget how you helped me along my way.
It dawned on me today that most people really do not know what compromise is... What I think is more interesting, is that many times, if there is a difference of opinion, people dont even think compromise is the way to handle the situation...
This is how I came to realize this:
I went out to lunch today with a few guys from work. One of them was my good friend Ryan, who just recently got married. Ryan is well aware of the fact that I dont want to get married, but Ryan also knows that I would not mind having kids. So Ryan asked me today what I would do, if I found a girl, who wanted to get married, and wanted to have my kids... Would my desire to have children be enough to make me marry her...?
And in my head, I couldn't help thinking how fundamentally flawed his question was...
In my head, Ryans question did not immediately pose a problem. In my head the perfect solution would be for her to get married to whoever she wants, and to either have my kid before or after that... And Ryan said, "well presumably, she wants to get married to you..."
AH HA!.. I thought, there is the problem, I want to get married, and she doesn't... the kids thing has nothing to do with it...
So if a girl wants to get married, and I dont wnat to get married, who's wants are more important ???
I would say neither, and once again, there could be a compromise...
now, being the average close minded person that you prolly are, you are most likely thinging something like: what is a compromise between a person who wants to get married, and a person who doesn't want to get married
and that is really easy, I'll give a couple examples...
lets say for practicle purposes it is the guy who doesn't want to get married, and the girl who does want to get married...
they could a. Have a ceremony that is not legaly binding... the reason that this is a good option is because many women will proclaim that the real purpose of a marriage is to have a public declaration of the love sharred between the couple... this accomplishes that goal, but does not require the man to actually marry the woman, and open himself up to any legal problems that might come along with it.
b. Write a completely one sided prenuptual agreement, where the man will gain 100% of property right, and get alimony payments should the marriage ever faulter, and then have a no frills, no ceremony wedding down at the court house. This is a good solution, becasue as far as the woman is concerned she will be getting what she wants, which is a legal marriage. But it sheilds the man from his most common fear associated with marriage.
c. She marries someone else, and the man and woman continue to date... Ultimately, as odd as it seems, this should be the preferred solution becasue both parties get what they want, but find another human being who thinks in reality this is an acceptable compromise...
so there you go... I am not even that smart, and I thought of 3 compromises that most people would never thinnk of, and even if they did think of them, they wouldn't agree that they were good solutions, but you know why???
World Cup So... world cup is going on right now... and if you live in the United States, odds are you dont really care... But I do... you cant get a web cast of the world cup matches from anywhere reliable inside the united states, but I did find this... www.ascii-wm.net... essentially they take a live world cup feed, convert it into ascii characters, and pump it over a telnet session... you can't really tell what it going on, but come on, I am a nerd, I eat that kinda crap up...
this is one of the better adidas commercial I have seen... Jose +10...
and Nike has a decent set of Joga Bonita commercials...
Look... I'm a man set in my ways. Don't think you can just come into my life with your "refrigerate" this and "don't pee in the houseplant" that and expect me to do a 180.
Why do I drink so much? Why do you bitch so much? Don’t worry about me, I have it all figured out: liquor before beer... in the clear. It's the Contra code of drinking. It's not the amount of drinks you have it's the order you have them, don't you know anything? So when I ordered seven jack and cokes AND THEN 5-6 beers I was thinking. And thinking like a fox! Now lets go to In n Out, I'm buying. And by "buying" I mean driving. You're actually buying.
What's that all over my fridge? Oh that's just some hot sauce my roommate spilled. When was it spilled? I dunno, how long ago was the president elected? Why don't I just clean it even though I didn't spill it? You just don't get it do you?
Am I really going to wear that? Hey, say what you want about me, but Big Johnson t-shirts are an American classic. Look at him he's all nerdy looking but he is holding this huge surfboard right at crotch level. It's like he has a big weiner! Get it? Those cartoon ladies with the big boobies sure do seem to get it, they're all over him! They don't look like they are judging Big Johnson or trying to change Big Johnson, they are just happy with Big Johnson the way he is with his giant surf board penis. You have zero appreciation of irony.
When am I going to wash those dishes? When I feel like it, that's when. It's not like they are getting any dirtier. Okay I just checked them and they are in fact getting dirtier. That's actually kinda disgusting. But we'll never know how dirty they can get if I clean them now. And I don't even know why the Forman Grill is in there; everyone knows you never have to wash that. what's that you say ??
Gross?
Look I'm trying to knock out the fat and I could really use your support.
Why do I hang out with those losers? It's not like I can’t stop being friends with someone just because you don't like them. If Steve calls you a whore, we have to accept his right to free speach, or the terrorists win. so dont be lame...
Why is there a stack of porn on the coffee table? I am going to pretend I didn't hear that, just like I pretend the top magazine doesn't have my dried pee all over it.
The Marriage Situation Everyone who knows me pretty well will tell you that I have no desire to get married. Frequently when I tell people this for the first time I am asked why I have a fear of comitment. I have never thought it was a 'fear' so much as it was an intellignet choice.. I mean I dont want to ever eat a pickle and peanut butter, with mayonaise sandwhich either, but no one thinks I am afraid of that... anyways, I finally found an article that explains what i feel pretty well, and apparently I am far from alone... Ignore the title, if you read the reasons you will see they are not really about 'fear' of comitment. Afraid to Commit: Young Men Want to Wait on Marriage
Arch Nemesis: I am 5'9". I am into drawing, reading, and computers ( by day ), justice, honor and vengance ( by night ). Seeking arch-enemy, possibly crime lord, or deformed megalomaniac.
Some loves are like that. Most loves are like that, from what I can see. Your heart starts to feel like an overcrowded lifeboat. You throw your pride out to keep it afloat, and your self-respect and your independence. After awhile you start throwing people out - your friends, everyone you used to know. And it's not enough. The lifeboat is still sinking and you know it's going to take you down with it....I think that's why I am sick of love.
Look... I'm a man set in my ways. Don't think you can just come into my life with your "refrigerate" this and "don't pee in the houseplant" that and expect me to do a 180. 
